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There’s a popular notion that after a while a couple’s sex life tends to become routine, some even believe it’s right after the honeymoon. Right or Wrong? Sex Life Diversity: Experimenting with Your Loved One(s)

If you want your relationship to blossom, you need to understand that change in yourself & your partner is required. Love does that for & to you. Change Is Good For The Partnership Soul

Marriage therapy can be an effective approach for a troublesome relationship. Marriage therapy can offer many benefits for your marriage. Find out how. How Marriage Therapy Can Help

My Love Story Today is our 3rd wedding anniversary – the official and loving togetherness that is the two of us. She is one of those rare people in the world that you’re instantly attracted to. It was the same for me and at a much deeper level. A one of utter love and admiration … and a certain ‘knowing’. Apart from her natural beauty, she has an aura that envelopes me in such a trusting way. [youtube_video]PW5ZbfZ0a1w[/youtube_video] The Journey We’re two individual people so you know as well as I do that there’s going to be a ‘rub’. We’ve had some disastrous disagreements – every couple does. That’s what we learn from and grow from, as a foundation. We have different value systems as well as those hormonal reactions. The Growth I still vividly remember those earlier days. During that first week, on our first face to face date in Bali, we truly believed (as we do now) that we were soul-mates forever . You might be...

 Woman to Woman Advice Want to rekindle that relationship passion? As a woman myself, I’d really love to hear other women’s views on my own ‘rekindling the spark’ tips so remember to let me know in the comments below, OK? Are you feeling bored with your significant other? Is your relationship in a rut? Never fear! It’s possible to replace relationship fizzle with sizzle. Try these five tips for putting the spark back in your relationship. Show Affection Kiss, hug and hold hands often, both when you’re alone and in public. Showing affection is the best way to build affection . The moment you stop making physical contact with your man is the moment the flame starts to die. Make it priority to hold hands at least once a day. Even if it’s just while you watch Netflix on the couch. Romantic Ideas Can Be Dates Too You’ll see a huge difference in your relationship if you go on a romantic date together once a week instead of always hanging ...

Fill Me Up with Your Questions On Who I Am Listen, I know I tend to rabbit on about relationships and advice for other people. That’s what we’re all about here and it’s a passion I have – ultimately, that’s your benefit :) I know you have some so quickly read through and ask one Well, now it’s your turn and your questions to me might very well be an eye-opener. An eye-opener for me, that is, in the answers I need to think about. OK, here’s a few starter questions. Please do have a read and modify any and even ask completely ‘of the wall’ ones too. There’s nothing that’s sacred or taboo – any question on who I am, what I believe in or what I think about something is PERFECTLY OK. Some Starter Ideas For You A – If I’m really in love. B – Who the last person I talked to and what was it about. C – What do I like most about kissing and cuddling. D – Any secret preferences for boys or girls ...

We travel through life and encounter different people. Some we simply can’t stand to be around for more than a minute and others are in our lives forever, with the majority falling somewhere in-between the two extremes. Let’s have a look at the broad types of these relationships and then why you need to identify those in your current ‘circle of friends’ who you need to jettison. Toxic Relationship You’ll likely have had some friends (or even lovers) that fall into this type. When you first meet them, they have a quality you like and attach to. You know you’ve got some toxic relationships. What are you prepared to do about them? Usually though, and after a short while, they start giving you negative vibes, followed by them patching things up so you both remain friends. The toxic relationship sees this friendship repeat this cycle, over and over again. You fall into a pattern of acceptance . You know what’s happening to you though? Your positive ...

Relationships are good and great times. There are also times you could just leave and say "forget this whole damn thing". This article is about the latter – when you could quite literally give up the past good times, out of utter and complete frustration. In hindsight, the solution... 8 Steps To Go From Disaster to Reborne

We travel through life and encounter different people. Some we simply can’t stand to be around for more than a minute and others are in our lives forever, with the majority falling somewhere in-between the two extremes. Let’s have a look at the broad types of these relationships and then why you need to identify those in your current ‘circle of friends’ who you need to jettison. Toxic Relationship You’ll likely have had some friends (or even lovers) that fall into this type. When you first meet them, they have a quality you like and attach to. You know you’ve got some toxic relationships. What are you prepared to do about them? Usually though, and after a short while, they start giving you negative vibes, followed by them patching things up so you both remain friends. The toxic relationship sees this friendship repeat this cycle, over and over again. You fall into a pattern of acceptance . You know what’s happening to you though? Your positive ...

Love is definitely a paradox. You can be in a relationship with love and still have an abundance of negative emotions swirling around everywhere. Think of those situations where you love your partner and you’re in an argument. There are moments when you could just scream! You could throw... Love or Passion?

Don’t Lose that Loving Feeling It can be pretty simple to rekindle the romance Beware: Same old boring routine can actually be hazardous to your relationship! Couples who have been going out for over a year can find this to be all too familiar. While getting comfortable and familiar with each other is a good thing, it’s sometimes inevitable that this also becomes a reason for faded romance. If you feel like you are in such relationship, take the initiative to turn things around through these gestures that will eventually have your sweetie acting a little more romantic . Play Your Songs Every couple has at least one song that reminds them of each other. It could be the song played in the coffee shop where they almost had their fraps mixed up or that loud track in the car when they first went on a real date. Hearing songs that make you reminisce on simple and grand moments you shared together could have you longing for those days. Playfully sing these songs in the shower whil...

Or Have I? You Tell Me. Am I right or wrong in what i say? When it comes to love, I am a newbie. I am not experienced in the ways of love and romance . I have no idea what I am doing. I did not feel prepared at all to spend my life with another person, sharing everything with them. Who could? Who does? Nothing in all our experiences of youth can prepare us for something so drastic. Something so permanent. To spend, literally, the rest of your life with another seems like a daunting task. However in my years of marriage I have learned a few things: Fear is Powerful I get full of fear at times. Fear that I will mess it up somehow. That I have picked the wrong person. That I will get hurt. That I will be miserable. I know there are up and down times to every life, and yet I fear those down times with a passion. There is just something within me that whispers “you have done it all wrong and now you are stuck.”€  Than what? What do I do? There are Good Times Then the...

Confused by What Men Want? Read On … Here’s the Top 5 things that guys will decide upon when picking a woman they’ll want to spend the rest of their lives with. So here goes …. 1. Obvious Outer Beauty Beauty isn’t so apparent and I’ll tell you why. Women radiate beauty, both inside and out. The first attraction will most certainly be external beauty but that’s really just the initial bait. Any women reading this really does need to understand they simply have to be themselves, naturally. Hoping to capture a guy under false pretenses is a total waste of everyone’s time. Be Real and Keep It Real, Ladies [youtube_video width=640 height=480]C-WaPwQte6c[/youtube_video] 2. Inner Beauty To keep the guy hooked, for the long term, there is going to have to be a compatible and complimentary internal shine. There is a general feeling amongst younger girls that they need to surrender to the testosterone fueled young bucks and end up acting ditzy, wi...

We travel through life and encounter different people. Some we simply can’t stand to be around for more than a minute and others are in our lives forever, with the majority falling somewhere in-between the two extremes. Let’s have a look at the broad types of these relationships and then why you need to identify those in your current ‘circle of friends’ who you need to jettison. Toxic Relationship You’ll likely have had some friends (or even lovers) that fall into this type. When you first meet them, they have a quality you like and attach to. You know you’ve got some toxic relationships. What are you prepared to do about them? Usually though, and after a short while, they start giving you negative vibes, followed by them patching things up so you both remain friends. The toxic relationship sees this friendship repeat this cycle, over and over again. You fall into a pattern of acceptance . You know what’s happening to you though? Your positive ...

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I was checking out the google statistics on the GeekandJock.com site the other day. Mainly to determine what was being searched for the most or the major articles being viewed. To just give more of the same. What I found really interesting was the highest hit page revolved around male and female gspots and more interesting is its also the post with the smallest comment intersection. Two things though: I've already written an upcoming post on the male gspot which is missing from that particular article as well as a more comprehensive downloadable guide to both spots. And the second thing is I need to discover why people are so timid in commenting when it comes to sex or their own sexuality. Interesting. Maybe society is the real culprit like I wrote on about women ? Thoughts?

When it's all said and done, relationships are freaking tough going. You first get into one through a mutual attraction which is usually a visual one. For men, this is 99% true, for women, there are a few other consequential factors that form a foundation of stability. But at the end of the day, it's very much a personal choice rather than a mutual one. I mean, you get into a relationship from a purely selfish point of view. Guys might be sexual. Women might be security and/or protection and/or stability to raise kids. BUT when you're in a relationship , it can all fall terribly apart unless both people care enough for the other for the situation to be totally shithouse but still care enough to continue and move forward. Move forward to get things fixed because their love is mutual and their love is solid. Thoughts?  

As a relationship counsellor, I often get asked whether the effort people are putting into their failing relationship is worth it. Without question, the answer I give is always a resounding YES! it is. We're human beings and that means we're also made to live with another. It allows us to get a balanced view on our perspectives and the views we have on the world. In a recent article I wrote on a male's viewpoint on women , a single guy usually has an unbalanced view, typically as men are casting their eyes around to see if they can do better. Better than what they've already got. Unfortunately, what they have is usually always the better option. What do you think?