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Where My Successful Dating All Began Several years ago, the shy, quiet geek that was me started on a journey of self-improvement to become more confident and attractive with women . Embarking on this journey, I was unaware of the challenges I was about to face. Looking back on it, I can see that the trials and emotional adversities I passed through on the way to success fell into six stages. On the way, I not only attracted women, but I felt the essence of what it meant to be a man. Putting out the will to risk everything and hang on for dear life, I understood what it took to be strong enough to lead and to change. Furthermore, deciding to improve my skills with women was perhaps the first decision I ever made completely on my own. In describing these six stages, I’ll use my dating life as an example. Yet I’ve noticed these same six stages as I now take on other areas of my life. Whether you want to date more women, get a promotion, start your own business or lose weight, these stages

The Good and Bad of Facebook According to a report by EU Kids Online, over half of British children aged between 9 and 12 are using social media networks, with 1 in 5 using Facebook , despite the site ruling that users have to be 13 or over. Kids and facebook – should they? This worrying statistic is something which is a growing factor amongst many children throughout the world. We hear more and more reports about youngsters falling prey to online predators, but even more likely, becoming victims of cyber bullying by their peers. What does this all mean for the next generation? Online Bullying… Most children will experience some level of it at some point in their adolescence. These days it has a far more sinister outlet in social media networks such as Facebook. There is a level of anonymity involved which gives kids ample confidence to succumb to a gang mindset. McAfee (the internet anti-virus software company) ran a poll of youngsters in 2012 which showed that 25% of respondents had

Dumped? Time For Action Then First things first: If you’ve been dumped then it’s going to hurt like hell for a while and coming to terms with it is just something that has to run its course. There’s no time line and no natural conclusion, it just depends on: how long you were in the relationship for how able you are to cope without your partner and how much of a shock was it when you heard those immortal words: ‘it’s not you, it’s me’. There are plenty of self-help books and online tips and advice on the matter but take it from someone who knows – it’s up to you how you want to get over this thing and anyone who tells you differently are pretty much lying. All I can offer you is my own personal experience on how I came to terms with a thoroughly messy break-up after a three year relationship ended leaving me distraught and pretty much alone. So, if you want to take my advice then great but, if you don’t, then listen to your head rather than your heart and do your

Is The Zen of Relationships Your Vocal Cords? I have a relationship where I’m an external person (I much prefer to talk) and she’s an internal thinker (she prefers to mull things over in her head first). Both are fine but it raises the question or maybe questions as to how best to communicate. And let me tell you, this scenario has caused some conflict in working out disagreements. Thankfully, we both love each other deeply and life is a learning experience and always will be. Can everyone’s relationship be peaceful and open? What does it take for a couple to attain Zen and Harmony? The Easy Ones Well, some of the points above are so easy for both of us. Saying I Love You? That’s an easy one for most people already in a relationship and carrying an true expression Like something? Usually that’s pretty easy as well. Granted, it’s going to be different for everyone and we all have a thinking process that differs from our partner – I get that too. Let me repeat that : “We all have a th

Get Her Fancy By Doing Easy Things Showing her you care isn’t as complicated as some would have you believe. It’s pretty easy, provided you do actually care. Caring for your lady can be mostly easy things you know The most important part is to always be genuine. A woman knows when you are doing something just because you think she expects it and she won’t particularly like that (with some exceptions of course). If there is a lovely lady in your life there are lots of things you can do to let her know how special she is without coming off clueless. Here’s the basic 10 Ways to Tickle Her Fancy: That Bouquet Is Always a Winner Flowers of course are a given. Don’t listen to naysayers who argue that flowers are outdated. They are probably single . Try Florist Express for great deals every day. And don’t feel like you have to wait for a traditional day like Valentine’s Day or a birthday. Sometimes sending flowers on a random day is a more meaningful gesture. Sweets Get Her Sweet Candy is a

Get Ready For Ignition of Passion Time! In long-term relationships or when couples have become parents, it’s not unusual for a relationship to start to feel a little stale. You both love each other, there’s no doubt about it, but the passion and the romance is almost non-existent and you feel more like friends or roommates than lovers. Strap in and get ready for the passion rocket! Romance is about feeling connected , it’s about feeling close to your partner and feeling heard. Sometimes the passion in a relationship can recede because of a stressful job or managing the demands of young children. It’s not impossible to feel that passion again, but to achieve it, it is essential that you prioritise time together as a couple in order to rekindle the romance. Here are 5 simple steps to help you revive your relationship: STEP 1 – Go Do a Date Again Go on a date. Remember the days when you and your partner used to go out for dinner or see a movie without the kids? Having a date night each

Confused by What Men Want? Read On … Here’s the Top 5 things that guys will decide upon when picking a woman they’ll want to spend the rest of their lives with. So here goes …. 1. Obvious Outer Beauty Beauty isn’t so apparent and I’ll tell you why. Women radiate beauty, both inside and out. The first attraction will most certainly be external beauty but that’s really just the initial bait. Any women reading this really does need to understand they simply have to be themselves, naturally. Hoping to capture a guy under false pretenses is a total waste of everyone’s time. Be Real and Keep It Real, Ladies [youtube_video width=640 height=480]C-WaPwQte6c[/youtube_video] 2. Inner Beauty To keep the guy hooked, for the long term, there is going to have to be a compatible and complimentary internal shine. There is a general feeling amongst younger girls that they need to surrender to the testosterone fueled young bucks and end up acting ditzy, without a clue. Long term ‘real’ guys are looking

Dating Online Safety: Don’t End Up with More than You Bargained For As busy as people are today, it only makes sense to turn to the computer in order to meet new people . With online dating safety, you need to be careful everywhere Unfortunately, no dating site performs background checks on its members. While a site can ask hundreds of questions, there’s no way of guaranteeing that someone is providing truthful answers. If you’re thinking of looking deep inside your computer for your one true love, do it safely. 1. Protect Your Identity Studies have shown that Americans spend millions on online dating services each year. If you are going to count yourself among these people, experts suggest that you protect your identity. Don’t share any information that would make it easy for someone to find you. You may even want to go so far as to create a new, free email account to use for your dating profiles. It may seem paranoid , but savvy computer operators can easily find you with just a tid

You Might Think You’re a Good Person But … Don’t take this the wrong way but the chances of you being a self-possessed asshole are probably reasonably high. The majority of people in first world countries are subtly brainwashed by friends, family and society to act this way. You crave for wealth beyond measure, don’t you? Law of Atrraction will keep you from your goals, despite you wanting them I bet you’ve daydreamed riding along in a sports car or lolling around the ocean on your own private yacht or something similar, haven’t you? Most of you will never ever get there for 2 very common reasons. You’re Totally Fixated On That Materialistic Objective You Desire Read that subheading again. Now think of your own past behaviour. Your thoughts concentrate themselves on getting the Maserati, at all cost. The priority here is on personal gain as opposed to the positive areas in life and business where getting the Maserati is the by-product of your actions. Let me explain a little further:

Do You Want More Self Confidence? Do you want a self confidence booster for yourself? Is the only thing missing from your life a little bit of confidence to propel you forward? Well the great thing is that this can be changed. There is no need to sit there wondering ‘what if’ because the answer is just around the corner. Anxiety can be a frustrating thing. It means that you know all the things you want and need to do but you just can’t bring yourself to do them. Not only can this hold you back in many aspects of your life such as work and relationships, but it can also lead to illnesses such as depression which can be very damaging to a person’s life. Self confidence has many attributes Don’t just wait for it to change though; take control over your self confidence issues and give some of these a go today: Consciously Focus On The Positives When self confidence is an issue, we tend to subconsciously think about all the negative parts of life. In our heads we will list all the things t

When You’re Over 50, Dating Looks Difficult Who says romance is only for giddy teenagers? The heart fluttering, pulse-racing sensation of new love can be discovered at any age. But if you’ve been single for a while, the world of dating can feel like a confusing world to re-enter. With this in mind, here’s a look at some simple rules that can help seniors who are dating to navigate their way to a fun and fulfilling relationship. Oh yeah, young love once again – check out that happiness Get The Right Attitude The first step to securing happiness in the dating world is to figure out what sort of relationship you’re actually looking for. Are you hoping to find a companion? Perhaps you’re looking to secure a long-term and meaningful commitment? Or perhaps you’re just after a bit of fun? Once you’ve come to terms with what sort of relationship will make you happy, you’ve got a much better chance of actually finding it. You’re Not Alone It might be comforting to know that you’re not alone

Radically Reduce Stress Between 2 People Each day we are being subjected to colossal amount of stress. Avoid just accepting that stress is normal – change it if it is It affects every aspect of our lives including our relationships. Stress can give us a lot of pain, strife and tension that are not only harmful to our mental wellness but to our bodies as well. In extreme cases, one can face a seemingly insurmountable amount of stress when the relationship turns awry and you finally toss in the towel into the ring. Relationships should not end just because of stress. There are ways to cope with stress and still have a splendid relationship with the one you dearly love. It is just a matter of knowing how to handle stress effectively and manage it despite the conflicts and the challenges that happen each day. Analyze The Situation The first step to reduce the stress in a relation is to sit down and analyze what is happening. Analyse what’s causing the stress, as a first step How many tim