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I’ve known my wife for nearly seven years, and we’ve never argued. Ever. When I first noticed this, I was blown away, as this was completely new for me; every other relationship I had been in had involved conflict. A Successful Relationship

Keeping the Magic Alive (and Growing) in Your Relationship Most people (maybe everyone) starts out in a relationship filled with hope, passion and enthusiasm . Once you start looking at relationships, one thing becomes very obvious There’s a fuel that drives things forward and has us looking forward to each moment we are together with our new partner. We make plans for the future, hang out together and generally have a great time.   Terrible Relationship Statistics Yet statistically, our relationship has a very poor chance of survival. After the ‘honeymoon’ period is over we either settle into a routine which is comfortable at best, if not necessarily happy. At worst, we decide to call it quits and have a breakup of the relationship, usually with a fair bit of pain and sadness.   The Few Survivors This is the reality for most relationships. But there are a small percentage of couples who actually not only stay together, but for whom the relationship gets better (not worse) with time.

When it comes to improvements in our relationships, it’s always a good idea to have a few reminders. Reminders to keep us on track and maybe a few we’ve either forgotten about or even hadn’t thought about before. That’s what life is all about – improvement and... 7 Tips To Be A Good Spouse

For the first 100 visitors to register for their interest, you’ll get our upcoming Sociopath eBook and Sociopath check-list absolutely FREE. Yep, you heard it right, FREE! Sign in to leave your details and once completed, we’ll email you with the Sociopath eBook and checklist at no... Avoid the Dangers of Dating or Marrying a Sociopath

I know my wife Pamela Allen will be raising her hand. And you know why? Because I"m built to help and the by-product of that is always looking for a solution. Hey, what can I say, that"s who I am. OK, my mind was recalling the same thing I"ve heard a number of times before. Try Empathy In Communication

Yesterday, I said some things I shouldn"t have to my wife Pam Papier. They were said in utter frustration from my point of view – in the heat of the moment. And I knew as soon as I said it, it was wrong and regrettable. Even Healthy Relationships Have Arguments

My wife Pamela Allen mentioned a few unattached people that were actually looking for ‘someone in life’, I suggested that for most people, it was actually far easier to find the ideal residential home than it was to find a partner. Buying Real Estate Can Be Easier Than Getting A Lover

Does your personal character include integrity, honesty and transparency? Here’s why it should. Will 12 Cents of Beer Destroy a Relationship?

Get Ready, Get Set, GO! Like many older guys, I went through a divorce and did some serious soul searching afterwards. A confident person is always an attractive and desirable proposition to a prospective mate. 12 months of it, combined with lots (and I mean heaps) of research into relationships and the female identity. I was adamant my next serious relationship was going to be a winner on all the fronts I failed in the last time. Here’s my list on the major areas guys need to have in place before embarking on a seriously permanent and healthy relationship. Etch these five main relationship tips into your brain and you’ll be ready to tackle the world!   Your Own Life Women instinctively desire security and safety . One of those primeval characteristics in our lovely women. If they’re going to ‘mate’ and raise children in the cave with the dangers of woolly mammoths running around outside, their caveman needs to have confidence, strength and who they are and what they’re on about in l

We’ve all got sex relationship questions. Here’s 10 sex tips for a healthy relationship that you simply can’t miss out on. 10 Ways To Get More Love Making Going On

Healthy and loving relationship survive because you have your partner’s back and they have yours. It’s a simple choice and requires conscious effort. if (typeof(addthis_share) == "undefined") addthis_share = "passthrough":"twitter":"via":"GeekandJock"; var addthis_config = {"d... Do You Have Your Partner’s Back?

I’ve been reading your exploits here, over the past few days and as another Aussie from Darwin, I felt some kinship to how you approach things. Great work here, mate. I was first reading how you divorced your first wife and then met your sweetheart Pamela Allen on Facebook. Loved that... Do I have a sociopath wife as well?

Dating sites are big business and the market is so saturated that the competition to keep up is stiff. Companies are vying for financial gains by recruiting and maintaining new members. This is not to say that users can’t have success with dating sites, they just need to be on the lookout... How Dating Sites and Scammers use Fake Profiles

Happy holidays to all. Can you extend yourself to someone you’ve lost contact with, to bring joy to their world and reconnect? if (typeof(addthis_share) == "undefined") addthis_share = "passthrough":"twitter":"via":"GeekandJock"; var addthis_config =... Have a Great Festive Season and Reach Out To Someone

Back on February 12th, 2009, we had the absolute delight of somehow meeting online via Facebook. That’s pretty amazing since my gal, Pamela Allen, was in Cape Town, South Africa and I was in Brisbane, Australia. It’s still hazy how that initial Facebook Friends connection was made... Young Love - Never Too Old

The top 5 sociopath warning bells & discovery questions to answer if you’re in a relationship with these black widows & con-artists. Living With a Sociopath Is Not Easy

It’s the perfect time to bring back the romance in a relationship or if you aren’t in one yet, start a Christmas affair that could lead to a permanent one. A Christmas Affair: Why the Yuletide Season is Perfect for Rekindling Romance

When you understand personality types, you’ll gain insight in how to communicate with women better as well as men. Obviously a good thing for dating. How To Communicate Better with Women

My girlfriends and I were huddled over quite a lot of vodkas the other night and the talk turned to men. As it usually does lol I found it very amusing and very concerning that most of my friends had the knife in for men in general and even for mistrusting their husbands and boyfriends. For the... Trusting Men

There are many Simple Ways to Cope With Divorce. It’s about mental wellbeing as much as physical stabilty and maintaining a health lifestyle. Women Power: Simple Ways to Cope With Divorce

I’ve been in a relationship for almost nine years. During that time we’ve graduated high school, we did long distance, I’ve graduated college, and we are now both working adults. Without going into all of the details, he is my best friend, but I know he is not the man I should... How do I break up with my best friend?

Take two individuals, both coming from broken/slightly scaring relationships. Mr.Air Hockey (Mr.AH): being cheated on and lied to repeatedly, and before that letting go of someone he loved because they were still in love with their past. Me: struggling with my own issues of impatience and was... How long is too long for tiptoeing?

Are you still in love with your partner or has it changed since you first met? Take the Relationship Hindsight test & discover where you’re headed. It might be nowhere! Should You Reevaluate Your Current Partner?

Christmas is one of the most romantic times of the year. Here are a couple of Christmas date ideas to capture that special someone’s attention. if (typeof(addthis_share) == "undefined"){ addthis_share = {... How To Have The Perfect Christmas Date

Getting married is one important step as it means sharing of financial responsibilities. You need solid planning in place to succeed in the relationship. Top Five Reasons to Marry a Financial Advisor

VPS Aren’t Expensive I just noticed that it has been quite a while since our last blog post so sorry about that. One of the tasks we’ve always wanted to look into (and actually do) was moving our sites over to a private VPS server and away from the perils of Hostgator shared hosting. In the past though, a dedicated server or VPS was restrictive to most people due to price and also expertise. The downfall of shared hosting is that the hosting company make the rules so if you get a rogue WordPress plugin that consumes above their secret thresholds then they’ll simply take you offline until they deem you’ve jumped through all their hoops. That has taken a few days for us, in the past because we love playing with new and interesting plugins, to give you some inside scoop :) So we took a big plunge, after quite a deal of VPS research and came up with DigitalOcean as the VPS provider, of choice. Wow, these guys get kudos from everywhere. A digital ocean droplet is a VPS server   The Cavea

I have to share my testimony to the world because i dont know who it might be helpful to. My name is Mrs Elizabeth Peters from chicago am 25 years old i got married at the age of 23 i have only one child and i was living happily .After one year of my marriage my husband behavior became so... Did you still in love with your ex?? (my testimony)

Real friends do far more than dump ongoing empathy in your direction. They tell you the truth that you might not want to hear & make you listen. Friends Giving Only Empathy Aren"t Real Friends

Post-wedding blues are real. This article will help newlyweds deal with them & find rewarding solutions to bring marriage happiness How to Deal with Post-Wedding Blues

On multiple occasions I have heard guys say that they what their girlfriend/wife do for career or work doesn’t really matter because they expect to be the main financial giver. but what about us women? Recently I started dating someone after a little me time after a hard breakup ( you can... Does career matter in relationships and when looking towards possible future?

Hiii…. I am new over here to share some experience with you. I know this is not so good to use of play with sex toys but i dont know why i enjoy these most. I use toys for to satisfy me. Even i have a bf and we do sex 4 to 5 time in a weak. Have any of you experienced this? Please let me... Sex With Sex Toys

When I went through the breakup all summer I stopped writing and I was upset for a while ( a long while). I am not sure when it happened but I realized I was worth more and that things with my ex were not healthy. I started online dating met some nice and unique people. However I still... Trying to check my baggage at the door.

A sad decline to the relationship magic that should have happened. Actions causes reactions. Has history repeated itself or simply a lack of wanting to win the same game? An End To What Was The Perfect Relationship

Money & relationships share a complicated alliance. If you are debt ridden with a bad credit history, chances are you’ll have a strained relationship. How Mortgage Can Ruin Your Love Life

Thought I’d pop a quick video I did some time ago of Pam and my first meeting. First time in Bali and then I popped over to her in Cape Town, South Africa.   I’m actually putting together a longer post over on the GeekandJock site as a celebration (as well as the challenges) that we had when we first met. That post is coming out in a few days to co-incide with the very first time we met on Facebook on February 12th, 2009. There’s some great insights for those looking to get into or are already in a long distance relationship. Those Early Times With Pam and I

If it sounds too good to be true, it more than likely is Never a truer word has been spoken when it comes to health care. I don’t know about you but I’ve seen these anti-wrinkle advertisements popping up everywhere, over the last couple of months. Pam drew my attention and suggested the cream ‘looked’ interesting since it was advertised and promoted in a local U.K newspaper. First The Advertisement That’s enough to spark curiosity in anyone who has wrinkles and would like them to vanish away. OK, I’m one of them :) So we go right ahead and click that link to see what it’s all about and land on a great looking News Website. Cool. Next The News Website Scammers have done a great job here. The Hooks The website address is http://www.lifestylereports.org/article/health/au/beauty/1/?t202id=414&t202kw=36-143-879 Wow, that’s a realistic looking address, isn’t it?   Wrinkle cream scam reporters[/caption]   There’s mention of all the right keywords to engender confidence LifeStyle Reports

When people think of a large State wide company like Queensland Rail, they conjure up images of people working in a quasi-Govenment mentality. You know the stereotypical type of worker who’s there to fill in the day and not give a stuff about much at all. Not As You’d Think They Are Well, the Queensland Rail people I’ve dealt with on 4 occasions have been an absolute pleasure. Currently with work, I’m traveling into the Brisbane CBD quite often during the week. I’m still getting used to train travel so I often am just a little confused on what I’m doing and where I’m suppose to be doing it. Necessitating tapping the nearest QR guy or gal on the shoulder and seeking help. Well, when it comes to customer service, no matter whether in the ticket office or walking the platform, there’s simply nothing too trivial for them to help with and be overjoyed in making sure you have everything you need to ensure your (my) journey is a total success. Queensland Rail Great Examples Both encounters in

Helping You Remove the Dreaded Google Penalty Slap Follow these guidelines to get the Google Penalty removed faster. Way back in February 2012, my GeekandJock Relationship Blog site was nailed by Google’s Quality Guidelines team as having ‘inorganic’ back-links. Like many Webmasters at the time, I wanted the quality content and relationship and dating help that I was producing to get into the hands of as many people as I could. The site wasn’t, at the time, geared to produce an income , though that was obviously the aim in the long term. I was engaged in common practise of peppering other websites with back-links that, in hindsight, wasn’t natural and the site paid the price. Real bad. Google Isn’t Forthcoming in Back-link Removal Assistance The site, like many of yours, is a labour of love and a part-time activity. Getting the dreaded short notice, instantly had me shaking at the knees. What do I do next? In short, here’s what you need to do: Check into Webmaster Tools Click your sit

Confession: I’ve fallen out of love! You know yourself, seeing Star Ratings in the Google SERPs catches your own eye. And so it goes for everyone else, using Google. Star Ratings are the new best friend for anyone with a website and wanting more traffic and potential customers. And Star Rating add credibility which is an influencing factor in Sales. I fell out of love with Author hReview and found a new love to replace her – and she’s even better so read on. Why Author hReview Is Rubbish? Ongoing (and high priced) 6 monthly renewal subscription. In comparison to my new love, I personally think Author hReview worked poorly The support was quite sporadic and almost a pick and choose to who got answered by the author, Hesham Zebida. Updates are few and far between While I found Author hReview a shiny object to start, the polish waned. Enter the SEO Booster Review What I fell in love with first was the value for money, given SEO Booster was only $24.00 which is more than half the price

Did you know you can use some old blog content, add some free music and produce new content, a new audience as well as more backlinks to your site? Well, I was reading on the train a few days ago about stealing content. Yeah, stealing is a bad thing and Google might punish you for plagarism but there’s a real sneaky trick to get around all this …. and here’s the secret sauce. Bingo, Bango, Boo … Hey Presto It’s your own content you’re thieving so cool for cats. The reasoning is to look at all those old pieces of content that get little click thru and interest and re-purpose the content into videos. Well, being a boring train ride, I deftly sent a number of articles off to ReadItLater for safe keeping. And I remembered the wonders of a video distribution network called TubeMogul – one upload that’s pushed out to multiple destination video aggregates like YouTube, Vimeo, DailyMotion etc etc. I used this service a number of years ago and the cool thing was being able to write the same des

Once you’ve got some PageRank and traffic coming to your site, you need to think about advertising revenue. That big question of “How can I leverage all my hard work and make some money”. Keep reading because there’s a very special offer I’ve arranged for anyone wanting it. Advertising The Easy Way I’m in the same situation as you are. I run a number of websites and this one is just my ‘play thing’ and where I simply blog my random thoughts. The thing is, over at GeekandJock, we were now at a stage to start wanting to monetize on our popularity and traffic. Advertising ‘the easy way’ was high on our agenda. When I say easy, I mean easy. Life is far too busy as it is to have to be concerned with managing approvals of incoming advertising, whether they be banner ads or text links. For that matter, the growing volume of guest posts , on GeekandJock, is now time consuming. Advertising Platform Investigations Here’s where I give you the low-down on what I did and the ultimate advertising s

Is VirUrl Worth Any Investment At All? In the never-ending pursuit of marketing and advertising efficiencies, my research pointed to 2 emerging advertising networks that are supposedly designed for spreading the news about small business blogs and the content. These are OutBrain and Virurl . I wanted to test them out and kick the tyres – so you don’t have too. I submitted some GeekandJock content to OutBrain and, for reasons that defy me, they knocked my content as being unsuitable and low quality for their network as well as having Opt-Ins. Well, just a little bit of digging revealed other sites are using the same (if not worse) layouts and methods to promote interaction and broadening their subscriber base. I can only surmise that maybe a few articles relating to ‘s e x’ might have turned them away. Let’s Test Out VirUrl While OutBrain lists some heavy-hitting websites that display their advertising and promoted web content, I was slightly anxious VirUrl doesn’t. In fact, the first t

It’s All In The Engagement and Communities We’re always looking at increasing client traffic, creating strong Social Signals for engagement and SEO as well as maintaining a very low resource footprint because we (well me in particular) like to minimise repetitive and boring tasks. Those 3 areas are what every website owner lusts after. Am I right? And I’m guessing you’re probably just like us. So do you want some secret sauce that we’re testing at the moment? Social Is The New Traffic Source, No Question! I hope you have been keeping a little abreast of SEO trends and what Google has been doing for the last 12 to 18 months because it has to do with engagement and Social Signals. I remember predicting this trend with my last Marketing employer 24 months ago and stressing the need to combine their SEO and Social team resources. Pity they didn’t move on my recommendation back then as they would have been ahead of the game, though I understand they’ve now done it :) So Social and Traffic,

Pam and Nic have the greatest laughs, at my expense – when it comes to McDonalds. McDonalds Leads Me To Insanity Is it just me or does McDonalds have one of the most confusing menus known to man? Let me tell you how I see it so you can better understand then. They’ve got Supersize, Upsize, Meal-Deals and whatever else. In my mind, the guys and gals behind the counter seem to give me the impression that each and every customer knows their products and individual menu items, intimately.   I just want an Angus burger with some fries, OK? “Did you want a meal deal?”. “What?”, I say. This some how involves a drink and I’m led to believe that there’s different size meal deals so the drink size and the fries size are locked in so I cant simply deduct one price of a small fries and have a large drink. Now They Confuse With The Favourite Angus Burger, Damn Them “Did you want to Grand Angus or the Special Angus?”. So I need to slide across and see that one has bacon now. Christ, why can’t I just

It’s All In The Engagement and Communities We’re always looking at increasing client traffic, creating strong Social Signals for engagement and SEO as well as maintaining a very low resource footprint because we (well me in particular) like to minimise repetitive and boring tasks. Those 3 areas are what every website owner lusts after. Am I right? And I’m guessing you’re probably just like us. So do you want some secret sauce that we’re testing at the moment? Social Is The New Traffic Source, No Question! I hope you have been keeping a little abreast of SEO trends and what Google has been doing for the last 12 to 18 months because it has to do with engagement and Social Signals. I remember predicting this trend with my last Marketing employer 24 months ago and stressing the need to combine their SEO and Social team resources. Pity they didn’t move on my recommendation back then as they would have been ahead of the game, though I understand they’ve now done it :) So Social and Traffic,

Suspicion is a habit, borne from your past. Wherever you picked it up from, it’s a freaking dark and negative emotion. That negativity perpetuates itself Suspicion Is the Evil Two Headed Monster

When people think of a large State wide company like Queensland Rail, they conjure up images of people working in a quasi-Govenment mentality. You know the stereotypical type of worker who’s there to fill in the day and not give a stuff about much at all. Not As You’d Think They Are Well, the Queensland Rail people I’ve dealt with on 4 occasions have been an absolute pleasure. Currently with work, I’m traveling into the Brisbane CBD quite often during the week. I’m still getting used to train travel so I often am just a little confused on what I’m doing and where I’m suppose to be doing it. Necessitating tapping the nearest QR guy or gal on the shoulder and seeking help. Well, when it comes to customer service, no matter whether in the ticket office or walking the platform, there’s simply nothing too trivial for them to help with and be overjoyed in making sure you have everything you need to ensure your (my) journey is a total success. Queensland Rail Great Examples Both encounters in

If it sounds too good to be true, it more than likely is Never a truer word has been spoken when it comes to health care. I don’t know about you but I’ve seen these anti-wrinkle advertisements popping up everywhere, over the last couple of months. Pam drew my attention and suggested the cream ‘looked’ interesting since it was advertised and promoted in a local U.K newspaper. First The Advertisement That’s enough to spark curiosity in anyone who has wrinkles and would like them to vanish away. OK, I’m one of them :) So we go right ahead and click that link to see what it’s all about and land on a great looking News Website. Cool. Next The News Website Scammers have done a great job here. The Hooks The website address is http://www.lifestylereports.org/article/health/au/beauty/1/?t202id=414&t202kw=36-143-879 Wow, that’s a realistic looking address, isn’t it?   Wrinkle cream scam reporters[/caption]   There’s mention of all the right keywords to engender confidence LifeStyle Reports