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I’ve known my wife for nearly seven years, and we’ve never argued. Ever. When I first noticed this, I was blown away, as this was completely new for me; every other relationship I had been in had involved conflict. A Successful Relationship

Keeping the Magic Alive (and Growing) in Your Relationship Most people (maybe everyone) starts out in a relationship filled with hope, passion and enthusiasm . Once you start looking at relationships, one thing becomes very obvious There’s a fuel that drives things forward and has us looking forward to each moment we are together with our new partner. We make plans for the future, hang out together and generally have a great time.   Terrible Relationship Statistics Yet statistically, our relationship has a very poor chance of survival. After the ‘honeymoon’ period is over we either settle into a routine which is comfortable at best, if not necessarily happy. At worst, we decide to call it quits and have a breakup of the relationship, usually with a fair bit of pain and sadness.   The Few Survivors This is the reality for most relationships. But there are a small percentage of couples who actually not only stay together, but for whom the relationship gets better (not worse) with time.

When it comes to improvements in our relationships, it’s always a good idea to have a few reminders. Reminders to keep us on track and maybe a few we’ve either forgotten about or even hadn’t thought about before. That’s what life is all about – improvement and... 7 Tips To Be A Good Spouse

For the first 100 visitors to register for their interest, you’ll get our upcoming Sociopath eBook and Sociopath check-list absolutely FREE. Yep, you heard it right, FREE! Sign in to leave your details and once completed, we’ll email you with the Sociopath eBook and checklist at no... Avoid the Dangers of Dating or Marrying a Sociopath

I know my wife Pamela Allen will be raising her hand. And you know why? Because I"m built to help and the by-product of that is always looking for a solution. Hey, what can I say, that"s who I am. OK, my mind was recalling the same thing I"ve heard a number of times before. Try Empathy In Communication

Yesterday, I said some things I shouldn"t have to my wife Pam Papier. They were said in utter frustration from my point of view – in the heat of the moment. And I knew as soon as I said it, it was wrong and regrettable. Even Healthy Relationships Have Arguments

My wife Pamela Allen mentioned a few unattached people that were actually looking for ‘someone in life’, I suggested that for most people, it was actually far easier to find the ideal residential home than it was to find a partner. Buying Real Estate Can Be Easier Than Getting A Lover

Does your personal character include integrity, honesty and transparency? Here’s why it should. Will 12 Cents of Beer Destroy a Relationship?

Get Ready, Get Set, GO! Like many older guys, I went through a divorce and did some serious soul searching afterwards. A confident person is always an attractive and desirable proposition to a prospective mate. 12 months of it, combined with lots (and I mean heaps) of research into relationships and the female identity. I was adamant my next serious relationship was going to be a winner on all the fronts I failed in the last time. Here’s my list on the major areas guys need to have in place before embarking on a seriously permanent and healthy relationship. Etch these five main relationship tips into your brain and you’ll be ready to tackle the world!   Your Own Life Women instinctively desire security and safety . One of those primeval characteristics in our lovely women. If they’re going to ‘mate’ and raise children in the cave with the dangers of woolly mammoths running around outside, their caveman needs to have confidence, strength and who they are and what they’re on about in l

We’ve all got sex relationship questions. Here’s 10 sex tips for a healthy relationship that you simply can’t miss out on. 10 Ways To Get More Love Making Going On

Healthy and loving relationship survive because you have your partner’s back and they have yours. It’s a simple choice and requires conscious effort. if (typeof(addthis_share) == "undefined") addthis_share = "passthrough":"twitter":"via":"GeekandJock"; var addthis_config = {"d... Do You Have Your Partner’s Back?

I’ve been reading your exploits here, over the past few days and as another Aussie from Darwin, I felt some kinship to how you approach things. Great work here, mate. I was first reading how you divorced your first wife and then met your sweetheart Pamela Allen on Facebook. Loved that... Do I have a sociopath wife as well?

Dating sites are big business and the market is so saturated that the competition to keep up is stiff. Companies are vying for financial gains by recruiting and maintaining new members. This is not to say that users can’t have success with dating sites, they just need to be on the lookout... How Dating Sites and Scammers use Fake Profiles

Happy holidays to all. Can you extend yourself to someone you’ve lost contact with, to bring joy to their world and reconnect? if (typeof(addthis_share) == "undefined") addthis_share = "passthrough":"twitter":"via":"GeekandJock"; var addthis_config =... Have a Great Festive Season and Reach Out To Someone

Back on February 12th, 2009, we had the absolute delight of somehow meeting online via Facebook. That’s pretty amazing since my gal, Pamela Allen, was in Cape Town, South Africa and I was in Brisbane, Australia. It’s still hazy how that initial Facebook Friends connection was made... Young Love - Never Too Old

The top 5 sociopath warning bells & discovery questions to answer if you’re in a relationship with these black widows & con-artists. Living With a Sociopath Is Not Easy

It’s the perfect time to bring back the romance in a relationship or if you aren’t in one yet, start a Christmas affair that could lead to a permanent one. A Christmas Affair: Why the Yuletide Season is Perfect for Rekindling Romance

When you understand personality types, you’ll gain insight in how to communicate with women better as well as men. Obviously a good thing for dating. How To Communicate Better with Women

My girlfriends and I were huddled over quite a lot of vodkas the other night and the talk turned to men. As it usually does lol I found it very amusing and very concerning that most of my friends had the knife in for men in general and even for mistrusting their husbands and boyfriends. For the... Trusting Men

There are many Simple Ways to Cope With Divorce. It’s about mental wellbeing as much as physical stabilty and maintaining a health lifestyle. Women Power: Simple Ways to Cope With Divorce

I’ve been in a relationship for almost nine years. During that time we’ve graduated high school, we did long distance, I’ve graduated college, and we are now both working adults. Without going into all of the details, he is my best friend, but I know he is not the man I should... How do I break up with my best friend?

Take two individuals, both coming from broken/slightly scaring relationships. Mr.Air Hockey (Mr.AH): being cheated on and lied to repeatedly, and before that letting go of someone he loved because they were still in love with their past. Me: struggling with my own issues of impatience and was... How long is too long for tiptoeing?

Are you still in love with your partner or has it changed since you first met? Take the Relationship Hindsight test & discover where you’re headed. It might be nowhere! Should You Reevaluate Your Current Partner?

Christmas is one of the most romantic times of the year. Here are a couple of Christmas date ideas to capture that special someone’s attention. if (typeof(addthis_share) == "undefined"){ addthis_share = {... How To Have The Perfect Christmas Date

Getting married is one important step as it means sharing of financial responsibilities. You need solid planning in place to succeed in the relationship. Top Five Reasons to Marry a Financial Advisor

VPS Aren’t Expensive I just noticed that it has been quite a while since our last blog post so sorry about that. One of the tasks we’ve always wanted to look into (and actually do) was moving our sites over to a private VPS server and away from the perils of Hostgator shared hosting. In the past though, a dedicated server or VPS was restrictive to most people due to price and also expertise. The downfall of shared hosting is that the hosting company make the rules so if you get a rogue WordPress plugin that consumes above their secret thresholds then they’ll simply take you offline until they deem you’ve jumped through all their hoops. That has taken a few days for us, in the past because we love playing with new and interesting plugins, to give you some inside scoop :) So we took a big plunge, after quite a deal of VPS research and came up with DigitalOcean as the VPS provider, of choice. Wow, these guys get kudos from everywhere. A digital ocean droplet is a VPS server   The Cavea