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Give Small, Get Big Small gestures speak volumes Building relationships isn’t just about finding common beliefs or shared interests. Sometimes it’s a nice gesture that can provide the opportunity to build an acquaintance into a friend. The same kind overture can also be the icebreaker that restores a damaged relationship . When summer approaches, we start receiving lots of invitations to graduations.  While many of us view these missives as clutter on our social calendars, they also provide the open door needed to build or restore a relationship. After all, graduates don’t send invitations to people they don’t like or don’t know, so if you’re the recipient of a lovely calligraphic masterpiece, consider some ways to acknowledge the event without necessarily showing up in person. So don’t pass up the opportunity to build on these moments .  That invitation wasn’t sent out of a sense of obligation or a desire for gifts.  In ma...

The Moments in Life Do you think on those little moments? There are big, giant moments in the life of a relationship . Awkward first kisses, saber-rattling fights, babies born and anniversaries celebrated. You know, the kind of events that deserve epic movie scores or their own scrapbooks. Successful relationships deserve these moments, times in life when we surface from the everyday to celebrate the connections between us with a big high five and maybe cake. However, most of the success of a longterm relationship depends on the places on the timeline spent between these events. The quiet pockets of existing together do more to build the fibers that keep relationships a strong than we expect, keeping quiet mindfulness of the everyday miracle of companionship makes being together all the more pleasurable. My Story My husband and I have been married nearly eight years, and have been each others partner much longer than that. We have seen other relationships burn hot and fizzle, or go l...