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Or Have I? You Tell Me. Am I right or wrong in what i say? When it comes to love, I am a newbie. I am not experienced in the ways of love and romance . I have no idea what I am doing. I did not feel prepared at all to spend my life with another person, sharing everything with them. Who could? Who does? Nothing in all our experiences of youth can prepare us for something so drastic. Something so permanent. To spend, literally, the rest of your life with another seems like a daunting task. However in my years of marriage I have learned a few things: Fear is Powerful I get full of fear at times. Fear that I will mess it up somehow. That I have picked the wrong person. That I will get hurt. That I will be miserable. I know there are up and down times to every life, and yet I fear those down times with a passion. There is just something within me that whispers “you have done it all wrong and now you are stuck.”€  Than what? What do I do? There are Good Times Then the...

Those Damn Adult Dating Sites! I get a heap of junk mail, being an Internet denizen for over 25 years. Recently, I’ve seen an increase in Junk mail for the likes of Ashley Madison, Badoo and NoStringsAttached. There’s piles of these sites popping up everywhere. Is Being An Adulterer Popular? With an enquiring mind and an interest in what was going on, I registered on NoStringAttached (no longer registered since I wrote this post) just to see the sort of activity as well as the number and type of people who are actually setting to purely have sex while still married or in a relationship. I wonder whether they give any thoughts that they’re also going to violate their marriage vows and, just as importantly, engage in deception and secrecy. I was blown away (pardon the pun). Check this screenshot of the number of women in my local area of Buderim, Sunshine Coast – Buderim is a small area and this site, as far as I know, is really quite new. Ashley Madison’s s...

What’s Out There For ME? I remember the days of thinking that everything I had ever wanted was “out there somewhere”. The perfect body, financial situation and of course, partner were out of my reach and remained elusive. Maybe one day, luck would be in my corner and I would finally get everything my heart desired. If I were a good person, then perhaps life would reward me and fulfill my wishes. In fact, maybe I would even find “the one”. Yada yada yada… Was I Being Played With? If I could place an image to my ongoing quest for the perfect circumstances that never came my way, it would look like a dangling carrot. It was as if the Universe, with its superb sense of humor (at my expense of course) was intentionally toying with my emotions , by offering the promise of what I wanted only to taketh away once it seemed to be within my grasp. I can’t even begin to elaborate on the level of frustration that perspective caused me to experience. It...

Where My Successful Dating All Began Several years ago, the shy, quiet geek that was me started on a journey of self-improvement to become more confident and attractive with women . Embarking on this journey, I was unaware of the challenges I was about to face. Looking back on it, I can see that the trials and emotional adversities I passed through on the way to success fell into six stages. On the way, I not only attracted women, but I felt the essence of what it meant to be a man. Putting out the will to risk everything and hang on for dear life, I understood what it took to be strong enough to lead and to change. Furthermore, deciding to improve my skills with women was perhaps the first decision I ever made completely on my own. In describing these six stages, I’ll use my dating life as an example. Yet I’ve noticed these same six stages as I now take on other areas of my life. Whether you want to date more women, get a promotion, start your own business or lose weight, t...

The Good and Bad of Facebook According to a report by EU Kids Online, over half of British children aged between 9 and 12 are using social media networks, with 1 in 5 using Facebook , despite the site ruling that users have to be 13 or over. Kids and facebook – should they? This worrying statistic is something which is a growing factor amongst many children throughout the world. We hear more and more reports about youngsters falling prey to online predators, but even more likely, becoming victims of cyber bullying by their peers. What does this all mean for the next generation? Online Bullying… Most children will experience some level of it at some point in their adolescence. These days it has a far more sinister outlet in social media networks such as Facebook. There is a level of anonymity involved which gives kids ample confidence to succumb to a gang mindset. McAfee (the internet anti-virus software company) ran a poll of youngsters in 2012 which showed that 25% of respo...

Dumped? Time For Action Then First things first: If you’ve been dumped then it’s going to hurt like hell for a while and coming to terms with it is just something that has to run its course. There’s no time line and no natural conclusion, it just depends on: how long you were in the relationship for how able you are to cope without your partner and how much of a shock was it when you heard those immortal words: ‘it’s not you, it’s me’. There are plenty of self-help books and online tips and advice on the matter but take it from someone who knows – it’s up to you how you want to get over this thing and anyone who tells you differently are pretty much lying. All I can offer you is my own personal experience on how I came to terms with a thoroughly messy break-up after a three year relationship ended leaving me distraught and pretty much alone. So, if you want to take my advice then great but, if you don’t, then listen to your head rather than your heart and do your...